r/AmItheAsshole is biased towards breaking off relationships rather than fixing them. They also hate social obligations.

e.g. If the OP is asking "I ghosted my friend in AA who insulted me during a relapse", Reddit would say NTA in a heartbeat, while the real world would tell OP to be more forgiving.

On the contrary, if the post was "the other kids at school refuse to play with my child", Reddit would say YTA because the child must've done something to incite being cut off.

Absolutely. I wonder how many parents have been no contacted, SOs broken off with, friendships broken because of the Reddit hivemind's attitude. Pretty sure it's doing a huge amount of societal damage.

I wouldn't blame reddit, it's what you get when you ask several thousand teenagers to give collective relationship advice.

“I got divorced based on advice from complete strangers on the internet, AITA?”

Is it hivemind or just people being generally aware better of toxicity in their lives?

> e.g. If the OP is asking "I ghosted my friend in AA who insulted me during a relapse", Reddit would say NTA in a heartbeat, while the real world would tell OP to be more forgiving.

That’s a nuanced discussion. It depends on what you value most, not what “real world” tells you. Most of the time Reddit would be right, because you need to prioritize yourself instead of continuing toxic relationships.

1) Reddit is horrible at nuance, almost non existent in some subs.

2) The toxicity is being defined by reddit to give the advice which is mostly wrong as outlined above.

If OPs had a understanding of what they valued and what is toxic, they probably wouldn't need a advice from biased readers [biased in the sense that they're on that sub].

That’s true, but they still might be right for wrong reasons.

It’s gendered, by the way

Many of the posts are A/B tests of a prior post where only the genders were flipped of the OP and antagonist to see how the consensus also flips

Yeah every single time I click on one of those posts the top comments are NTA. A couple times I tried randomly opening a few dozen posts and checking the top comments to see if I could find a single YTA and struck out.

Granted many of the OPs are very biased in the poster's favor. Most I've read fall into one of two buckets: either they want to gripe about some obviously bad behavior, or it's a controved and likely fake story.

The problem with any of these is that they are so incredibly biased towards the author's frame of reality (understandably so).

Who among us are able to 1) Understand a 2nd persons view of a issue we're in and 2) have the ability/courage to write it in a post seeking advice.

My point is that the author will specifically frame the problem clearly on their side. Occasionally redditors will seek additional questions but rarely.